WHAT PARENTS NEED TO KNOW ABOUT HONORING THEIR CHILD’S LOVE LANGUAGE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON
Understanding a child’s love language means recognizing and catering to them. It hones into how they personally desire to be loved and cared for.
Whether it is through words of affirmation and conversation, spending quality time together, physical affection/touch, acts of service, or receiving gifts, when parents know what resonates with their child, they can give in ways that feel genuinely meaningful.
For children who feel loved through gifts, the gift symbolizes thought and connection—not cost. Even small or handmade items can feel incredibly special when chosen with intention. What matters most is the message behind the gift: “I see you, I know you, and I chose this just for you.”
If parents rely too much on gifts for a child who has a different love language that child may not feel fully understood. The gifts might be appreciated, but they won’t meet the deeper emotional need. Over time, it can create a disconnect where the child thinks, “This isn’t how I feel loved.” When parents give in a way that aligns with the child’s true love language, the bond strengthens.
Even if gifts aren’t a child’s primary love language, presents can still be meaningful. Emphasis should always be on pairing the gift with their true love language makes the biggest impact. You always want to help children to feel loved in a way that matches how they naturally connect.
If they thrive on words of affirmation, write a heartfelt note with the gift.
If their language is quality time, make the gift part of a shared experience.
If they value physical touch, present the gift during a warm moment of closeness.
If they respond to acts of service, give something that supports or simplifies their daily life. For instance, help them with their chores, or even do them together. Think about creating and making something just for them, or perhaps volunteer together in the community. A great gift may be joining their classroom for a day as a class parent which will enable you to spend the entire day with your child.
So, how do parents figure out their child’s love language—and reduce stress around holiday giving?
Be on the lookout and watch how your child shows love to others— which will reveal how they best receive love. Notice and think about what makes them light up: praise, hugs, shared activities, helping hands, or little surprises. Once parents understand their child personally, they can focus on more meaningful gestures. It lowers stress, reduces pressure to overspend, and makes the season more joyful for everyone.
Happy Holidays, everyone!
Blessings your way.
Xoxo
Gabrielle
